In some ways, dating in the city is a different experience to dating anywhere else. There are different rules and dynamics. People expect to be treated in a certain way and taken to the right kinds of places. Obviously the specifics vary from city to city, but because of the speed of life and mass population, general urban dating behaviour tends to be relatively similar. Here’s a breakdown of a few of the basics…
Initial attitude…
In the city people are always busy. They don’t have time to be hassled or messed around. They know what they want and have a good idea of how to get it. This applies to their attitude towards dating as well. Therefore, you have to start off with a bold, confident and no-nonsense approach when it comes to urban dating. Make sure you’re able to walk up to anyone and start talking. Make sure you don’t play any games. Make sure to be willing to compare diaries when arranging dates!
Where to meet…
Sheer size of population is the first problem when it comes to dating in the city. How on earth do you find someone you have anything in common with out of so many? It’s amazing how difficult it can be to find the right kind of people. Recently, internet dating has become immensely popular in big metropolises, an easy way to find likeminded people without having to search too far. eHarmony is one of the top online dating sites. This also fits well with the insane busyness of people’s lives in the city. They don’t have the time to sit in bars and wait for people to come up to them.
What to do…
So you’ve finally tracked someone down that you get on with and approached them in a bold, no-nonsense manner. Now where do you take them? The pub and bar culture means that it’s popular to take a date ‘for a drink’ in the city. This keeps it casual, and the emphasis on conversation means this is a good way to get to know each other. However, because of the sheer abundance of things to do in the city, finding something unique to do will result in the most successful date. This could be a one-off event, or something really whacky like chocolate-making classes.
The follow up…
After the date you have to bear in mind, once again, that everyone in the city is busy. Make sure to keep them interested by pre-arranging the next few dates and keeping in close contact with them.
Urban or rural, the basic fundamentals of dating are the same – whether you’re dating Sheffield singles or Hertfordshire countryside singles. But there are still a few subtle differences to bear in mind.


